Lira van Staden
What happens when the story you’ve been telling yourself no longer holds?
In this episode of Through the Fog, I sit down with my long-time friend Lira, artist, mother, and, more recently, divorce doula. Yes, you heard that right. Lira helps people navigate the messy, grief-laced, admin-clogged, guilt-ridden terrain of separation. And she does it with compassion, depth, and zero BS.
We talk about where it all began, meeting in a church-in-a-bar (3rdplace), building community in strange places, and trying to figure out what it means to be human together. We talk about the megaphone sculptures she created in Pretoria, ostensibly for the public, but actually for herself. A way to find her voice, quite literally, in the middle of unraveling a life.
Lira breaks the divorce journey into three beasts: grief, guilt, and gorillas (yes, really). And her wisdom cuts deep, drawn from her own marriage and painful, drawn out divorce experience; feel your feelings, plant a forgiveness garden, and schedule time for the admin chaos so it doesn’t swallow your life.
She doesn’t give answers. She holds space for people to find what they already know but haven’t yet named.
It’s a conversation about loss, courage, and creativity. About being willing to become the kind of person you’d want to walk this road with. And maybe, just maybe, about growing basil as an act of healing.
Listen wherever you get your podcasts:
And if you know someone going through it, send this to them. It might be the lifeline they need.
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Get in touch with Lira:
Instagram @divorcedoulafindingaway
Whatsapp: 082 524 5375
www.divorcedoulaway.com
